Why to the person enemies if he has him? About the moments when the person harms to himself so, as villains are not necessary

Whether it happened to you to be late regularly for work, continuing, even when the chief warned about inevitable consequences? And there are pies for the night when you made the oath promise to hold weight? And to set to itself almost impracticable purposes in a short time, constantly to look for defects and not to allow itself to relax for a second? If recognized itself or someone from acquaintances, means it is time to understand the reasons. Despite visible differences, an essence at these phenomena one. When itself the enemy Psikhologi and speak to the clients: "To you enemies have to pay extra, all work for them do"? And after all...